But, it’s a real question – What do you do if you are in a situation that doing the right thing might cost you? It just might be that the Pastor’s wife is a regular soloist but shouldn’t be OR maybe it’s the daughter of the Personnel Committee Chairman.
The truth is… ministry revolves around people, and when you have people, you have potential for conflict. And when you have art, you have subjective opinion – and that provides plenty of opportunity for disagreement about what is good and what isn’t good.
It goes back to the purpose of what you do as a leader. You make decisions (lots of them) that shape the content of the worship services of your church. You want the very best for your people, and yet, you live with the consequences of what you decide – and they do too.
Once I was faced with the dilemma of moving a choir from one service to the next. It was clear what the best option was for the schedule. But, there were strong feelings on both sides of the question. I finally decided it was time to spend some of my capital and moved the choir.
When you serve a church, you are constantly making deposits and withdrawals in your relational accounts. As you lead, you are building relationships and, over time, can accrue trust and understanding with the people you lead.
This is a wise thing to do. Because in the role of leader, the day will come when you will make a decision for the good of the ministry that someone may not understand. If you have made deposits in that account, you can spend what you need to and not break the relationship. But, if you arbitrarily make those withdrawals in relationships you have not invested in, you just might overdraw the account and diminish your influence.
We don’t lead music – we lead people.
In other words, if you have not invested into a relationship of trust with your Pastor and his wife (so that you can lead her well), you might as well strike up the band for her solo – on Easter Sunday morning.
Mike Harland is the Director of LifeWay Worship. When he’s not directing 30+ employees, you’ll find him leading worship at various churches around the country, writing/arranging worship songs and/or, writing his next book. In his spare time, he loves playing basketball and spending time with his family. Mike can be found on Twitter @MikeHarlandLW and on facebook.com/Mike.Harland.37.